I like order, but I am not obsessed with it. I can easily go with the flow and have the schedule be loosely arranged. The older Stu kids were easy nappers and slept pretty good at night. Remy, our newest baby, is not like his sister and brother. He seems to thrive on routine.
I know now that Remy does not really love to nap. He will take a few catnaps here and there (usually only while he's being held) and one fairly lengthy nap in the afternoon. The older kids would just fall asleep if they were tired, I never gave much thought to scheduled naps. But he is different. He likes to be held and rocked to sleep.
I can get over the high maintenance behavior of the day because he is an angel at night. Most of the time.
It's difficult to live with a newborn. It's like moving in with a complete stranger. Together you are figuring each other out... while battling other stresses like sleep deprivation, hunger, sore body, jealous older siblings, unsolicited advice, etc.
Remy and I are finally understanding each other. It only took nearly 10 weeks. (insert exhausted eye roll) Luckily for me, I have a few amazing friends with newish babies to bounce ideas off of, to complain to, to ask for help from. Moms need a tribe - but that's a completely different post.
The bedtime routine that works for us...
Remy begins cluster feeding (eating about every hour or so) around 5pm. This is his way of telling me bedtime is coming... and also that I should be cooking dinner for the rest of the family. Moms have to be master multitaskers.
I bring Remy straight from the bath to his changing table. After I dry him off, I massage him with some Dove Baby Moisturizer and sing softly to him. He smiles and lays fairly still. It's working. Then I put his jammies on him, but before I put his feet in, I rub a little bit of Lavender on the bottom of both of his feet. I tell him he smells like bedtime. Then I zip him up.
My oldest child, Reagan, is 12, Riley is 10 and Remy is 1. Everyday is a crazy day in the life of the Stus!