SmallStu has been absent from school for a few days. The funk is making its way through town. She wasn't the only one absent. There were two other girls from her class who also missed the beginning of the week.
So after school I was curious about the day. That's pretty standard. I try to get the kids tell me as much about their day as possible. Although I am interested in the academics, I am very interested in the social aspects. This is such a critical time (aren't they all?) in a young girl's social development and self-worth. Self esteem is a tricky thing. And I sometimes feel that the scale is unfairly tilted against girls. It seems way easier to be a guy.
And I know in a post from the past I spoke about the "mean girls" at the new school. This isn't about that. We have worked through the bullying junk - I hope - at least for the current moment. SmallStu seems to have found a place where she fits in and is comfortable. I am so grateful for that.
So today after school we went through the usual line of questioning. Both monsters are pretty open about their days - most of the time. Today about an hour after we got home, SmallStu said "I have to tell you about something that happened at school." Essentially, this is how that conversation went:
Me- Ok, shoot.
SS- There were these boys who were saying inappropriate things. (her exact word)
Me- Oh. Yeah??
SS- Yeah. Really not good.
Me- What'd they say?
SS- Well, they kept walking by me, XX & YY. And they were bugging us. Saying inappropriate stuff. You wouldn't have been happy.
Me- Was it on the playground? Lunch room? 2nd grade boys?
SS- No. XX, YY were absent like I was. So we were in the hallway working on our stuff. These 4th grade boys walked back and forth a few times. I don't know where they were going.
Me- Oh. What'd they say that was inappropriate?
SS- I don't know if they knew YY or not, but they were talking about her family. They said something about her brother. And one said 'Yeah, I had sex with your mom this weekend.'
I was floored. Um, thanks loser forth grader.
I think I said "Loser." In response to her. I told her (once again) that boys are complete idiots. Then I thanked her for telling me.
Anyone else have a similar experience? It'd be nice to know I am not alone.